Kids and Holidays…Naughty Time or Nice?

December 16, 2008

If you think you’re the meanest mom ever, you’re not alone. And if you’re noticing a particularly squirrely behavior pattern, you’re also, not alone. When I read I’m the Meanest Mommy Ever, I felt better. A lot better. My kids have been INSANE! The whining, the fighting , the yelling, the hooting. And, yes, like that mommyblogger, I’ve been yelling and threatening- and just plain wiped. To the kids’ defense, we’ve had visitors, gone to parties, and spent hours running around like mad people in the attempt to do all the “fun” things on the agenda.

Now, here it is, ten days out ’til Christmas and if gifts really were contingent on Santa’s judgment, we’d all be screwed. Seriously, our usual holiday highlight, decorating the tree, was more like an afternoon in a three ring circus. Everyone was in spiteful spirits and it became comical at one point. Here we are, lighting lights, hanging decorations and one kid’s down the hall, balling because he was asked to leave the room due to obnoxious behavior. A second child’s crying in the playroom because his “stupid” brother got to put the star on top. And me, I’m almost in tears because the “magic” of Christmas had evaporated.

However, sometimes you have to hit the low point to realize that there has to be a better way. In her article, she says she stopped the insanity and went sticky sweet. I’m right there, sister. And, I’m also pretty sure it’s the holiday season that makes everyone feel so crappy that they tip into “new year’s resolution” mode. I assume it’s because during the “mst wonderful time of the year” everything’s supposed to be perfect, magical and memorable. When it falls short, it adds stress and guilt and agitation. I didn’t send cards this year but now I feel bad! I forgot to plan a family portrait and now I feel guilty. The kids are hopped up on Christmas cookies and tweaking from red dye #5…and I’m yelling “sit down” or “be quiet!”. What a dynamic, right?

Still, when the magic of Christmas morning comes, everything is right with the world…that is until the fighting over toys and whining over who got what begins. And so with that in mind, I continue on trying to make this year special.

The Meanest Mommy Ever

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  • 1. andrea frazer  |  December 16, 2008 at 2:43 pm

    Ha ha ha. Your link came up on my blog post and I found this. If it’s any consolation, it does get better. Just when I start to feel guilty for now plying my kids with gifts year round Christmas comes and then I am once again validated that too much stuff makes for cranky kids. It’s 6:45am now, and screw them! I’m enjoying the tree by myself. I have about two minutes. I hear footsteps. Oh, well. Hang in there! Enjoyed your writing very much (and not just because of my article link – LOL.)

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  • 2. andrea frazer  |  December 16, 2008 at 2:43 pm

    i meant “for NOT plying my kids with gifts year round.” Tired. Sorry.

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  • 3. copybrite  |  December 16, 2008 at 3:44 pm

    ha! thanks- I fully appreciated your article because I often stop and think, “is this for real?” Especially the whining- I mean one on one, in a calm, attentive, stable environment, my kids are great but when they turn, OMG…I’m prepping myself for a new “Parenting on Track” course to reel em back in- except I HAVE to wait until January 2…there’s just no way I’d succeed right now!

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